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Things not to say to a depressed person

There are some things which you just shouldn't say when someone tells you that they are depressed, even if you mean well. I am going to go through some of the most common things people will say to a depressed person and highlight why you shouldn't say them.

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1) There is always someone worse off.

Speaking for myself, even when I'm at my lowest I already know that there are people worse off than I am. When I hear this, all I'm thinking is "No shit, Sherlock! You think that hasn't crossed my mind already?"

In any case, telling someone who is depressed that others have it worse only invokes feelings of guilt and despair. Even if is true, it doesn't mean that their problems are invalid or insignificant.

2) Suck it up.

Variations of the above will include pull yourself together, snap out of it etc. Such a response just comes across as dismissive and uncaring. It is already difficult for a lot of people with depression to open u…
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Dyspraxia

In my latest (and first for a quite a while) post I'm going to be addressing something slightly different, but very close to my heart - dyspraxia. Though not a mental health disorder, I feel that it is important to raise awareness of the condition and address the way people are affected by it.



What is dyspraxia?
Dyspraxia is a developmental disorder affecting co-ordination in individuals. It is a lifelong condition that can affect anyone, regardless of their intellectual ability. Speech can be affected too. The way in which people struggle with it varies with each person. 
People with dyspraxia may experience difficulties with day to day activities as well as employment and education. Common symptoms in children include difficulty tying shoelaces, riding a bike, writing and participating in sports. These symptoms may continue into adulthood when dyspraxics may also experience difficulty learning to drive, applying makeup and preparing meals. 
Dyspraxia can also impact you socially…

Low Self-Esteem

Our self-esteem is how we view ourselves and our worth as individuals. For some people, this is very low and it can be difficult to lift.

Self-esteem determines whether we like ourselves as people, our self-worth, recognise our strengths and positive traits, feel able to do things, believe we deserve happiness and that we matter and much more.


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Why do some people have low self-esteem?

Needless to say there is no straightforward answer to this question. People have varying degrees of low self-worth for different reasons. Common factors include bullying or abuse, unemployment, work-related issues or problems studying, being on the receiving end of prejudice or discrimination, health problems (physical or mental), relationship troubles, worrying about your appearance or image and lots of other things.


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Is it a mental health issue?

Low self-esteem is not, in itself, a mental health issue. However, it often goes hand in ha…

Male suicide

One of the most talked about topics of our time is male suicide. It is no mystery as to why this is the case. All suicide is, of course, a vital issue that needs to be tackled head-on. However, there is a major disparity between the genders when it comes to deaths from suicide. Men are three times more likely than women to take their own lives. In the UK, the suicide rate amongst men is 15.5 deaths per 100,00. The suicide rate amongst women is 4.9 per 100,000. This is not just the case here in the UK either, the male to female suicide ratio is similar in the USA and Australia. In some countries the divide is even higher; in Russia and Argentina men are four times more likely to commit suicide than women. Globally, nearly 40% of countries have a suicide rate of more than 15 per 100,00 men, compared to just 1.5% with similar rates for women.

Throughout this post, I am going to explore why this is the case and what we can do about it.


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Why do more men com…

Myths about depression

There are many myths and misconceptions which exist about depression. Here I will talk about some of the most common ones.
1) Depression is a choice. This is a peculiar one. Nobody suffering from depression has chosen to be this way, just as nobody affected by heart disease has chosen that. People who are depressed would choose the exact opposite if they could.
Unfortunately, it is not as simple as flicking a switch. Depression is treatable but it doesn't go away overnight. It takes time and effort. If you think someone is depressed, be supportive, talk them through their options and assure them that they aren't to blame.
2) You must have a reason to be depressed.
You have your health. You have a roof over your head. You have food on the table. You have a great job. You have a loving family and the best friends you could ask for. You couldn't possibly be depressed, right?
Think again. While depression can arise as a result of life events and environmental factors, there isn…

Welcome

Hi all, 

Welcome to my blog - a place where you can have your mental health experiences published anonymously and help those similarly affected to get advice from other readers or simply vent about whatever is on your mind.

I started this blog primarily with depression in mind but anyone who is suffering from any kind of mental health issue is welcome to join. 

I will start by talking a bit about my own experiences. I am 29 and I have been battling depression on and off since at least my early twenties, so nearly ten years now if not longer. I have been on fluoxetine for around the last six months, having seen another GP back in the autumn. What prompted me to seek help again was some work related issues. Long story short, I had recently started a new job in a completely different type of role to what I was used to. Frankly, things were not looking good. I was lagging behind my peers due to ongoing issues with my performance at work (despite the extra support I was being given). Just as …