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Things not to say to a depressed person

There are some things which you just shouldn't say when someone tells you that they are depressed, even if you mean well. I am going to go through some of the most common things people will say to a depressed person and highlight why you shouldn't say them.

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1) There is always someone worse off.

Speaking for myself, even when I'm at my lowest I already know that there are people worse off than I am. When I hear this, all I'm thinking is "No shit, Sherlock! You think that hasn't crossed my mind already?"

In any case, telling someone who is depressed that others have it worse only invokes feelings of guilt and despair. Even if is true, it doesn't mean that their problems are invalid or insignificant.

2) Suck it up.

Variations of the above will include pull yourself together, snap out of it etc. Such a response just comes across as dismissive and uncaring. It is already difficult for a lot of people with depression to open u…